Tuesday 19 July 2011

Divorce and Children

No matter what you may think about divorce. No matter what you may feel about divorce. No matter what your situation or experience, life will change for you and your children. For children, divorce can be stressful, sad, and confusing. At any age, kids may feel uncertain about what life will be like, or angry at the prospect of mom and dad splitting up for good. Divorce isn’t easy, but as a parent you can make the process and its effects less painful for your children.Hence the divorce and Children are closely related.  

Helping children coping with divorce: What to tell your kids:
When it comes to telling your kids about your divorce, many parents freeze up. Make the conversation a little easier on both yourself and your children by preparing significantly before you sit down to talk.
Tell the truth. Your kids are entitled to know why you are getting a divorce, but long-winded reasons may only confuse them. Pick something simple and honest
Say “I love you.” However simple it may sound, letting your children know that your love for them hasn’t changed is a powerful message. 
Address changes. Preempt your kids’ questions about changes in their lives by acknowledging that some things will be different now, and other things won’t.
Helping children cope with divorce: Listen and reassure:
Support your children by helping them express emotions, and commit to truly listening to these feelings without getting defensive. 

Helping children cope with divorce: Work with your ex:
Conflict between parents—separated or not—can be very damaging for kids. It’s crucial to avoid putting your children in the middle of your fights, or making them feel like they have to choose between you.

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