Monday, 5 December 2011

hardest part of life

hi friends, me n my love first time We met when he was in medical school and I was in nursing school.His residency was difficult and long.  He put in long hours and at this point we had 3 kids and one on the way.  I thought our relationship would all go back to normal once the stress of the residency was over.  He seemed happy with us and he loved the kids.  We moved to our dream house and all seemed to be going well, I thought.  We added a beautiful baby to our family and a dog.  We spent the weekends on our boat and spent a lot of time with the kids.   Then I found out he was having an affair with a nurse at work.  He moved out and then begged me to forgive him and I did.  We got counseling and our marriage seemed stronger than it was.....I still had some issues about him lieing to me, but I was moving forward. I confided in a friend that I had made about almost everything.  She was my support and best friend thru it all.  I later found out she befriended me, because she and my husband were having an affair.  They betrayed me and her husband. She took everything I felt or said and switched words around and he believed her over me., and she had him believing I was planning on leaving him even before I knew about thier affair. The hardest part was being betrayed by 2 people I thought loved me and had my best intrest at heart.  The constant lieing right to my face and feeling no remorse for it even to this day.




One tip is to put yourself first.  Think what is best for you because you are your own best advocate.  Listen to your inner voice.  Keep moving forward.  You can never go back



גירושין : מומחים גירושין הטובים ביותר וכלים גירושין מקצועיים זמינים בארץ









is my decision right

Over the years, Gingrich himself has declined to comment on the story’s details, usually relying on some variation of the comment: “removal of evil spirit’m not proud of, and there are things in my life I’m very proud of.” He has acknowledged having extramarital affairs in the past, however.
Although the thrust of the story about his first divorce is not in dispute — Gingrich’s first wife, Jackie Battley, has said previously that the couple discussed their divorce while she was in the hospital in 1980 — other aspects of it appear to have been distorted through constant retelling.




גירושין is the Hebrew word for Divorce.
Most significant, Battley wasn’t dying at the time of the hospital visit; she is alive today. Nor was the divorce discussion in the hospital “a surprise” to Battley, as many accounts have contended. Battley, not Gingrich, had requested a divorce months earlier, according to Jackie Gingrich Cushman, the couple’s second daughter. Further, Gingrich did not serve his wife with divorce papers on the day of his visit (unlike a subpoena, divorce papers aren’t typically “served”).
Gingrich’s marriage to Battley had been troubled for many years before it dissolved 31 years ago, both parties have said. Battley, who is seven years older than Gingrich, had been Gingrich’s high school math teacher in Columbus, Ga. They began dating after he graduated and were married in 1962, when Gingrich was 19 and a freshman at Emory University in Atlanta.

problems due to divorce

Man and woman when they start a life very happy mood and both are think that we will manage our life we will never fight but after some time they will start the fighting misbehave with each other so that if they solve their problem than ok otherwise or mostly in these days people believe in divorce and just a littel misunderstanding create a big issue and after that take a wrong decision and so that their life start will go to hell



 
For almost as long as Newt Gingrich has been in public life, an unflattering story has shadowed him: that as a rising young Republican congressman from Georgia, Gingrich ended his first marriage by serving his wife with divorce papers while she lay in a hospital bed dying of cancer.
The story has been trumpeted by Gingrich’s political opponents, endlessly recycled by the news media and repeated even by would-be allies, including social conservatives, who have long had doubts about the thrice-married former House speaker. As candidate Gingrich has risen to the top of some polls in the past few weeks, the story has inevitably surfaced again. Variations have turned up on MSNBC and in the National Journal, columns and blogs, and two British newspapers in just the past week.

In Israel they have Divorce tools ( גירושין ) and Professional Divorce help,, their tools are very effective and not costly at all.








Monday, 28 November 2011

Relation between Divorce Problems and Astrology


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Astrology is the answer for many problems though many never believe this but it is effective. Our Sun signs can tell a lot about our personalities if studied by an expert.
I am a Astrologer myself and works as a tantrik in Chandigarh (India). I usually come across many cases of divorce and conflicts
 between married couples. What I notice as a biggest reason is expecting much from one another (more than needed). Another big reason is not to understand the partner; we just want our partner to be like us but not ready to change ourselves according to him/her. I will discuss here a latest case of dispute between two married couples who came to me for some solution.

That male was a Taurus and female was a Libra. Due to my big experience it knew the reasons for the dispute
 between them. A Libra mail is always a Dominant one and love to maintain a discipline around him whereas a Libra woman loves to play, sing and enjoy every moment of her life. She is somewhat moody but still very strict to her ethics and values. The Different problems which occur between these 2 personalities are: -

•        Expectations of mail partner which she can overlook due to her moody character.
•        Libra needs a Space and alone time to survive which she might not give him (she thinks
 it’s a crime to be alone).
•        She must have many friends (males too) due to her extra friendly nature this can makes a Taurus man feel
 jealous.
•        She will defiantly try to sort things out but the hard and strict behavior of Taurus will not help.
•        Her mantle state Changes more rapidly than Share rates; it will just make things more confusing.
•        He notices
 each and every word of her (I mean that) while she rarely thinks about what she is saying.
So there are many potential reasons for unrest
 between a Libra and a Taurus partner. My client reasons were same. They want me to use some magic due to my status as Black magic specialist. But as I knew the exact reason of their fights hence I knew the right treatment too.
It might sound funny to you but a
 Libra and Taurus makes one of the best pairs. In spite of their completely different personalities they can come out as a best pair due to the commitment of Taurus and Charm of Libra. Just a Little adjustments and this team is ready to create new relationship standards.
I told them to made a little bit of adjustments only like
•        Give some alone time to Taurus.
•        Never stop your Libra wife to out with friends (believe me she will never cheat on you).
•        Spend some quality time together (other than Sex).
•        Give
 each other Surprises as both these personalities love Gifts and Surprises.
When I call them last time they were happy than ever before and it gave an example about the relation
 between Divorce and Astrology. 








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Saturday, 22 October 2011

Why we take divorce

This is a really big Question, why it happens??? We do a lots of promises in the beginning but then we forget all and divert our ways.
We feel so passionately in love but then we don't want even a look of our partner.
The question arises is "what was that in the beginning?".
In the beginning of our relationship, we declared our self the best lovers present; most caring, most respecting and close to each other. But in the end, figures just changes dramatically and nothing left in control.
Was that a crush or lack of experience? here is the answer.

"When we love someone too much than we start feeling them as a part of our life and we want them to change according to us" 

This is the biggest cause why a relationship ends, and this is why we take גירושין (Divorce)



Thursday, 11 August 2011

Implications of divorce


Divorce (גירושין) brings a variety of long-term economic, social, physical, and mental health consequences , although the full extent of such effects remains hotly debated. Comparisons of life outcomes or well-being along the simple divorced/not divorced axis  always show poorer outcomes for the group which is composed entirely of unhappy couples, telling simply that being part of a happy couple is better than being part of an unhappy one.
Children of divorced parents are reported to have a higher chance of behavioral problems than those of non-divorced parents (a mix of happy and unhappy families). Studies have also reported the former to be more likely to suffer abuse than children in intact families, and to have a greater chance of living in poverty.All children of divorced parents had lived in unhappy homes, they unsurprisingly reported numerous unhappy experiences.  A peaceful divorce will naturally have less of an impact on children, disregarding of course external factors such as how attached children are to each parent, the visitation rights arranged, and the general environment the children are brought up in.
many health related problems that may arise are:
  • cancer
  • stroke
  • heart problems
  • sexually transmitted diseases
  • rheumatoid arthritis



Tuesday, 9 August 2011

Divorce Side effects

A person's belief on love ends after divorce. It is a stoppage in an individual's love life and along with it, brings a  versatile side effects that affect a person emotionally as well as mentally and make him/her weak and down, deprives him/her of concentration on work and career.







The Effects of Divorce on Children – What to Expect
When you first “break the news” to your child, their initial reaction might vary from extreme anger, to sadness, to drawing an immediate conclusion that their parents’ breakup is their fault. One of the most damaging effects of divorce on children is the different “outlets” they turn to in an effort to deal with their hurt and pain.
Unfortunately, one of these “outlets” is…drugs.
Kids use drugs to cover up the emotional pain they’re feeling as a result of the troubling events that led to the divorce. This often leads to poor grades in school and even can result in the child dropping out of school completely.
But aside from those “physical” effects of divorce, there are many damaging emotional side effects that your children will carry with them for the rest of their lives. For instance, studies have proven that one of the most common emotional effects of divorce on children has been low self-esteem.
This lack of self-esteem carries into their adult lives and leads to many unpleasant side effects like troubled relationships, difficulties finding a job and marital troubles.



Other effects of divorce on children include:
  • self-blame or guilt; feeling responsible for parental problems
  • alcohol use, or other self-destructive behavior
  • feelings of abandonment
  • sadness, and even suicidal thoughts or behavior
  • withdrawal from family, friends, and/or activities
  • anger (at self and others), rage or even violent behavior
  • acting out, defiance and limit-testing behavior
  • sexual activity
  • Divorce, disease and death    Divorce is painful for both the partners if both of them started with the promise to remain together in life. Some of the mental health indicators affected by divorce include  depression, hostility, self-acceptance, personal growth and positive relations with others. divorced people show higher rates of emotional disturbance, accidental death and death from heart disease, cancer, high blood pressure and damage of the liver. These deaths could be related to psychological functioning as divorce required a profound readjustment.
  • Anger and blood pressure     Some people harbor anger even after divorce, it is usually much harder for such people to accept the reality that the  relationship has come to an end. In the course of normal conversation, a person’s blood pressure can rise dramatically. However, the rise is minimal when people are talking to their pets, spouses or close friends.

Stress
There’s evidence that divorce can also become an all-engulfing stress for many, even if they are getting divorced for the right reasons. There’s a need for internal and external reorganization after a divorce. The effects are not just short-term. Even after many years divorced people have trouble reconnecting with the opposite sex.





Remarriage
Women are stressed before divorce because of financial and social reason but men are stressed after divorce because they have to take care of so many things which they never had to deal with in the past. Those who form new intimate relationships soon after divorce are most likely to recover from divorce sooner than the others who remained unmarried.



Divorce, anxiety and parenthood
Rates of car accidents, alcoholism, drug abuse, depression and anxiety increase among men who remained single after divorce for a longer period. However, divorced mothers who must deal with such added stresses as poverty, continued conflicts with their former husbands or problems in child-rearing also face long-term risks to their emotional health. Divorced mothers of teen-age sons have an especially hard time, she and others have found, but mothers of very young  children usually have difficulties too, particularly if they do not have outside jobs.





Contact with children
It’s hard raising kids alone. Soon after divorce parenting breaks down and becomes inconsistent and punitive. Children can complicate the lives of the divorced but their presence can also reduce the suicide potential of the parents.
Contact with ex-partner
The ”bonds of attachment” between former spouses last much longer than either of them would have expected, even for the one who most wanted the divorce. Divorced spouses often continue to be valuable resources for one another. When there is a moderate amount of contact between the spouses emotional disturbance are less.
Social Circle
Lack of friends or social contacts is associated with anxiety and depression among the divorced and seemed to be especially important in the longer run.


If love and marriage has a feeling like heaven, DIVORCE brings a feel of hell.. 

    Friday, 5 August 2011

    The effects of divorce on men and how to recover

    The effects of divorce on men however are a lot sketchier for a number of reasons.
    • Men don't often speak about their experiences
    • Society expects men to simply 'deal with it'
    • There are more women's groups willing to find these things out
    There is of course a lot of anecdotal evidence of the negative effects of divorce on a man's life and mental health which this blog will cover:



    Depression :Men get sad and low from losing their wife and their family. This is not a difficult thing to imagine, but full blown depression is also something that is very common.





    Anger:Seemingly uncontrollable anger can manifest in men who were once mild mannered and friendly because of divorce.




    Loss of Self Esteem:A mans pride in himself is shaken when the women who promised to love him forever says she no longer does. His house, his family, and his place in the world is shaken so his self esteem plummets.


    Loss of Status:A man is often judged by his marriage and family in our society rather than his personal character. This status of being a husband and a family man is a part of a man's personality and the loss of this status makes other judge him poorly even if they do not intent to. 


    Alcohol and Drugs:Many men turn to substance abuse to numb their pain and have a high in the midst of a time of extreme lows. This can become addictive and lead to a post-divorce life even more miserable hat can hurt their finances, mental health, children, family and many more people who care about them.

    Difficulty Trusting Women:One of the most poisonous effects of divorce on men is the broken trust that in some men never heals. While men may move on to other relationship an inherent distrust and often bitterness towards women in general can often remain that will destroy their attempts at future happiness.


    How to Forget Your Ex Wife and Move on


    Learning how to forget your ex wife and move on from your divorce is not easy, but it is vital to be free of the negative impact of your marriage break up. All too often men can be laid low by hearing a song that reminds you of god or bad times, or glancing a picture in the corner of your eye that brings back memories of happier times, then your mind cannot stop the flood of emotions and memories that can overwhelm you. A few ways to avoid such situation are:


    Live in the Now: Concentrate on your senses. What can you smell, hear, taste, see?
    Now close your eyes, then try to feel all of this at once.This will enable you to bring your consciousness back from bad memories of the past and pressures of the future to just your exact state at the moment free of many negative things.
    Wash Away Memories: First imagine your bad memories of your ex wife and your marriage as a layer of dirt all over your body.
    Imagine now a hot shower, steam billowing out form its cleansing heat.
    Take an imaginary step into this shower and imagine a cleansing of this dirt from your body.
    Imagine the memories as layers of dirt sliding off your body to wash down the drain.
    Imagine a particularly bad memories falling out form your heart and your chest to disintegrate in the water and wash away.
    Keep doing this until you feel clean.
    Open your eyes now and you should have lessened the effects of these memories or even completely negated the effects of them!


    For more help and advice on how to forget your ex wife and move in from your divorce, click ABOVE to find a complete road map to ease the emotional turmoil and gain the happiness and fulfillment that can come from being free of the memories of your ex and are having these effects impact on your life in negative ways then you need some help.    


    גירושיןלפנות לכלים גירושין, עורכי דין גירושין מקצועיים










    Thursday, 4 August 2011

    Divorce Humour

    Divorce ( גירושין )  is like passing a kidney stone. It hurts like hell, takes what seems forever to pass, results in an enormous bill, and men will always think they have something great to show for it when they get to keep the worthless stone. Marriage is the sole cause of divorce.






    One woman says to another, "Isn't your wedding ring on the wrong finger?" The other woman replies, "Why, yes, it is. I married the wrong man"! 


    Man is incomplete until he is married. Then he is finished.






    One of the reasons that fifty percent of marriages end in divorce is that those men who promised that they'd die for their woman just don't come through.

    When two people decide to get a divorce, it isn't a sign that they don't understand one another, but a sign that they have, at last, begun to.






    Divorce is bachelor-hood, with strings attached.

    Of all the new weight loss programs and exercise videos available, divorce is still the most effective. Where else can you get rid of 205 pounds in a quick 90 days.



    To be happy with a man, you must understand him a lot and love him a little. To be happy with a woman, you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all.


    "I Will" is the shortest sentence in the english language..."I Do" is the longest.

    Tuesday, 2 August 2011

    Movies on Divorce


     Movies are a great way to unwind from our hectic lives, and they often highlight some of the same challenges we face. We see ourselves becoming heroes or falling in love, just like the characters on the big screen. Movies can even make divorce look glamorous. I have highlighted some pretty good movies that show different aspects of divorce. Top movies related to divorce are:

    1. One Fine Day (1996)


    2. Mrs. Doubtfire (1993)


    3. The War of the Roses (1989)


    4.Waiting to Exhale (1995)


    5. The Squid and the Whale (2005)


    6. Stepmom (1998)


    7. Whole Nine Yards (2000)







    Sunday, 31 July 2011

    Divorce and Children


    DIVORCE AND CHILDREN




    Divorce always comes with consequences. Children are the ones who suffer the most when parents are getting divorced. 

    The first thing you need to see as a parent is to make the decision steadily. Just don’t think about yourself. Talk with your partner and rethink about the decision you are about to make. Look for an alternative if you have children.
     Now if you’ve decided that you want to separate, stay calm and patient. There are many aspects you have to think about like social, legal, financial, and psychological. The next thing is to get advice from an attorney. You may get good advice from your close relatives.
           But an attorney will give you the best of what you require. In this manner, you will come to know the legal as well as the financial aspects of your divorce.
    The last thing is the psychological condition of your kids. You need to tell them the truth but in a very calm manner. You need to understand them during this phase. They must not feel that they are responsible for your divorce. Very steadily you will have to help them cope up this situation so that their future is not affected by your decision.

         

    Saturday, 23 July 2011

    After Divorce

    Divorce is a situation when two person  who have been living in relation since 2-3 months or 2-3 years or even more than that may feel that they cannot continue their lives together. So they opt  Divorce as their choice. But they face a lot of problems after divorce. Specially its very difficult for a man to live after divorce if he is given a child custody. a person  faces very disputes in society and also in relatives. Divorce can destroy self-esteem. After divorce a person totally ruins. He has to rebuild himself again from the beginning. Its very difficult to forget each and everything about a person who stayed with you very long.
    The person should be able to handle himself after divorce. Give yourself permission to feel your feelings.  Deal with the feelings of anger and sadness.  You have a right to your own feelings.  Let them out.  Write about the, talk about the, scream and cry about them.  Release your feelings.  Take a long bath or shower and then stay in your robe all day and just be with your feelings.  You have to feel to heal. Treat yourself often to long walks in the park, massages, movies, eating out, reading a novel, window shopping, and anything else that will make you feel pampered for an hour or so.  Pamper and nurture yourself as much as possible.   Do some things that you put off doing while you were married.  Start taking care of yourself and your needs . Coing with divorce is necessary if you have opted it. Otherwise you cannot plan for your remaining life.


    How to cope with divorce

    Coing with divorce is difficult for every member related to a divorced couple. Men going through a divorce will often try to withdraw into a cocoon of self-protection. They often don't feel like being with others. So try to find ways to get him out of his cocoon by getting him out of the house. Find a favorite activity of his and enjoy it with him. Golf, camping, fishing, bowling are all good ideas. Even a walk or a drive can help. Some men will not know where to turn for help if they are not able to cope on their own. Pointing to a good family law attorney, helping him find the courthouse, getting him to church, or seeking competent psychological help when needed can be important at a time of crisis. 

     Realize that coping with a divorce takes time. Telling  a person to "get on with his life" too early can be damaging. Let him work through the process of grieving and coping with his loss. Even friends can help a person alot in coping with divorce and to maange the condition of divorce and children.  

    The person who divorced may be able to come out of this situation but for his/her children its very difficult to cope up with this. For them they might me a reason for it. It may make them feel guilty sometimes, they also feel embarrasing in telling such things to their friends. also. So while coping with divorce is very essential for a divorced person to live his remaining life.

    DIVORCE AND CHILDREN

    Studies show that the divorce of their parents cause a big impact on children. Divorce is great stress not only for the couple, but also for their children. Divorce and children are inseparable concepts. When all the madness of discord engulfed the family, children, unfortunately, do not remain on the sidelines. In addition to its will, children are often forced to opt for one of the parents that gives them a feeling of sadness, confusion, hopelessness, loneliness, and even blindness. Children think they are abandoned and betrayed.

    The children are most affected by divorce. The divorce and children are closely related to each other as children related to their parents. After the divorce of their life changes radically. Coping with divorce is very difficult for them. It does not matter what your attitude toward divorce. Even if you divorce - the good and the only way out of intractable situation, your child will perceive it quite differently.

    It is obvious that children consider divorce as a disaster for them and a huge stress because children love both parents and want to see them together. Often, children have feelings of anxiety - and if the parents leave me alone? What is my guilt? Is it because of me if they get divorced? What to tell my friends? What should I do? All these question comes in mind of child whose parents get divorced.

    Thursday, 21 July 2011

    Surviving Divorce

    Surviving divorce can be a fear if you're to look forward to getting a divorce. In order to ensure surviving divorce, you should first understand that your divorce decision shouldn't be taken easily. Deciding to separate or divorce is never easy. Life as a single woman is very different and difficult after divorce. Take some time to understand the changes that may occurred after divorce. A divorce will have huge personal and economic effects on a family and it is often the children who are affected the most; they will always experience grievance after divorce of their parents. Divorce is not an easy process but parents can make it easy for their children. Parents must decides about the future of the children while divorce. 


    The life of children is totally changed after the divorce of their parents. Divorce often leaves parents angry with each other and children confused and sometimes even blaming themselves that they are responsible for divorce.
    For children, divorce can be just as hard as the death of a parent. Maintaining a positive environment and lowering stress can help extremely for children while getting a divorce. Never force your children to take sides. Every child will have loyalties to both parents. If the parents include in divorce then it must be very critical decision for children. Requiring them to side with you is unfair to the children. They should not even be involved   to choose sides in divorce. If children are able to take decision while divorce of their parents then children suggestion must be considered in divorce by the divorce law.   If the age of children is above 8 years then they can choose for their side. 

    Tuesday, 19 July 2011

    Divorce and Children

    No matter what you may think about divorce. No matter what you may feel about divorce. No matter what your situation or experience, life will change for you and your children. For children, divorce can be stressful, sad, and confusing. At any age, kids may feel uncertain about what life will be like, or angry at the prospect of mom and dad splitting up for good. Divorce isn’t easy, but as a parent you can make the process and its effects less painful for your children.Hence the divorce and Children are closely related.  

    Helping children coping with divorce: What to tell your kids:
    When it comes to telling your kids about your divorce, many parents freeze up. Make the conversation a little easier on both yourself and your children by preparing significantly before you sit down to talk.
    Tell the truth. Your kids are entitled to know why you are getting a divorce, but long-winded reasons may only confuse them. Pick something simple and honest
    Say “I love you.” However simple it may sound, letting your children know that your love for them hasn’t changed is a powerful message. 
    Address changes. Preempt your kids’ questions about changes in their lives by acknowledging that some things will be different now, and other things won’t.
    Helping children cope with divorce: Listen and reassure:
    Support your children by helping them express emotions, and commit to truly listening to these feelings without getting defensive. 

    Helping children cope with divorce: Work with your ex:
    Conflict between parents—separated or not—can be very damaging for kids. It’s crucial to avoid putting your children in the middle of your fights, or making them feel like they have to choose between you.